Why do people lie?
Almost every day, each of us has to deal with the lies of other people. Involuntarily, there is a desire to find out why people are lying and how you can determine what a person is telling you is not true.
Let's try to understand these issues.
The main causes of lies
Fear of consequences
They resort to lies when they are afraid of the interlocutor’s reaction to the truth. Most often, people prefer to lie to avoid the anger or frustration of another person. This behavior indicates a lack of sincerity and trust in the relationship.
People often resort to manipulation of the interlocutor with the help of untruthful information, since for some reason it is simply not profitable for them to tell the truth. This allows the liar to achieve the desired price at the price of trustfulness and openness of the interlocutor.
Avoid negative criticism
Lies are resorted to by people who are trying to hide their complexes. Speaking of untruth, they are trying to become better and more successful in the eyes of the interlocutor, however, such lies are quickly revealed and everything falls into place.
Keep the interlocutor safe
Often the truth can hurt badly, so people can lie in order not to cause pain and suffering to loved ones. Such a lie helps to maintain a good relationship, but they can irreparably spoil if a person finds out about this concealment.
Signs of lies
This is how our world works, that lies can be found absolutely everywhere and everywhere. To be ready for this, it is worth knowing how to determine that a person is lying.
Peering closer to the interlocutor, you can recognize the signs of a lie: most often they are given by speech and mimicry.
- The person leaves from the concrete facts in the story and can be confused in the sequence of events in question.
- Speech liar often resembles a defense.
- People try to veil a lie under a thick layer of humor and sarcasm.
Facial expressions and gestures
- The interviewee often turns away, trying not to look you in the eye. Or vice versa, eye-to-eye close eye contact remains for a long time.
- Systematically touching the tip of the nose, ears, clothing, neck, or covering the mouth with your hand. All these gestures suggest that a person subconsciously tries to stop the flow of lies being produced. These gestures are most pronounced in children.You can find out more about the causes of children's lies here: Why children are lying.
- The person who is lying is trying to find support or to press into the chair on which he is sitting.
- Also, people who speak untruth constantly fidget, turn objects and perform a number of unnecessary actions.